“God gives nothing to those who keep their arms crossed.”
– African Proverb
In July I attended Deepak Chopra‘s Seduction of Spirit Retreat in Whistler, B.C. It was a completely wonderful and enlightening experience. Each day included meditations, yoga, and workshops including The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success. I love this book and read it almost daily.
I am a giver. My friends are givers. Giving is good. It’s something we’ve all been taught, women in particular. As women we all too often give at the expense of ourselves rarely taking into account what might be to our highest good. Unfortunately, we rarely learn to receive, at least not gracefully.
When you think about it, you really can’t have one without the other. It isn’t a pleasant feeling to give knowing your gift or what you offer is rejected, diminished or unappreciated. To avoid these bad feelings means learning to give without an agenda or outcome in mind, without attachment. How it is received, or not, is immaterial. Like the sunrise – it simply rises and shines expecting nothing in return.
But what about receiving? How often are we offered something – a gift, a compliment, a hug, love – and the tapes in our minds question the reason for the giving, question the giver’s agenda assuming they have one? How often do we reject it, or diminish it saying ‘you shouldn’t have’. How often do we record in our minds we must return in kind instead of simply accepting and appreciating the gift?
Are you open and accepting of receiving – a gift, a hug, a smile, love? Do you believe you are worth it? Is that really what it comes down to – feeling worthy? I think, yes. When we feel worthy the tapes in our heads turn off. When we feel worthy we can smile, feel the love, accept the gift with open arms. We allow ourselves to allow the energy of goodness into our lives without question, without doubt, without stories. It’s like seeing a beautiful sky at sunset or hearing the birds sing in the morning. It can simply be. In the receiving, we can be giving.
As Deepak says in the second spiritual law – Keep wealth circulating by giving AND receiving – care, affection, appreciation and love.
Namaste and blessings to you.